acceptance, etc.


It’s a good thing that yesterday’s post was written in advance. I had to take Max into the vet’s again for a second amputation of his tail, and it took the better part of the day. The first version of his “tail job” had begun to turn necrotic—why, I can only speculate—but the damage to his tail due to the javelina injuries was obviously greater than we had hoped or even been able to observe.

I feel sorry for the pain Max has had to endure. The depth of my feelings for him have become more intense the more he has suffered. All day yesterday he was subdued as spotting from his bloody abidance was evidenced by numerous stains on the floor. We can only look forward to better days ahead. But for now, we must suck it up and accept that life is hard and not particularly fair.

Yet the concept of “fairness” is something that I feel, not Max. I don’t know for sure, but I doubt that Max has any hopes or expectations of what happens next in the future. He is unlikely to have his expectations dashed. He is living in the moment and just living with what is.

I have gotten pretty good at accepting what life has to dole out and just getting on with it. But I’m not so good at accepting what life has to dole out to others. This is because, if setbacks happen to me, I have the personal task of doing the next best thing. When I had my stroke, after about five minutes I said to myself: “Okay, this is the way that things might be for the rest of my life. So how am I going to deal with it?” The challenge of the situation occupied my mind, and I have trained myself to have become all-consumed by the creative challenge of problems. However, if setbacks happen to others, I can only stand by helplessly and observe. They are beyond my locus of control.

If something happens to me, I have faith in my ability to deal with it. Although I may not know right away how to deal with a particular problem, I know that I’ll eventually figure it out.

Other people are a different story. I have seen enough people paralyzed by setbacks, I have grown to expect that not all of them will figure out a positive course of action. It may go on for weeks, months, or years. Some people remain in denial, or turn to drink or drugs, become depressed, etc. They don’t accept the new situation and cannot let go of the past. But those who do are inspiring to me. I learn from their examples.

I’m not setting myself up as a paragon of anything, but I will say that despite numerous opportunities to have thrown in the towel, I’m still here and satisfied with my lot in life.

To summarize:

“Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be.”



Groove of the Day

Listen to Jason Mraz performing “Living In The Moment”


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5 Responses to “acceptance, etc.”

  1. July 8, 2015 at 12:07 pm

    Danny – You have become a SAGE out their in the SAGEBRUSH – Rock On

  2. 2 Mikki
    July 8, 2015 at 4:03 pm

    Dan,will your doggie be Ok now? I will pray for him. love you Dan : )

    • July 9, 2015 at 8:36 am

      He is asleep next to my desk chair, and his tail stopped bleeding yesterday. He gives every appearance of recovering without a hitch. Thank you for your prayers.

  3. July 9, 2015 at 6:20 pm

    Did you hear about the 3 children that were send to Juvenile Dentation for not having lunch with their father? https://www.yahoo.com/parenting/kids-locked-up-for-refusing-to-have-lunch-with-dad-123579270182.html

    • July 9, 2015 at 6:39 pm

      Yes, I have just heard about it today. I think this is a misuse of the courts to force a solution (and a very bad one) on a problem of the parents’ making. Kids should never be used as pawns in custody disputes, and this judge should have her decision overturned and possibly face consequences for her abuse of power.

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