love songs 11

Do people ever write love letters anymore? Unless you’re stuck in prison or dodging bullets in Afghanistan, chances are slim that you’ve ever even seen one if you’re under 35.

Today’s personal communications environment is all about efficiency and convenience, and it is thus characterized by cheap and easy phone service, mass-produced greeting cards, soulless emails, and incomprehensible text messaging (e.g.: I ❤ U. I mean, wtf?  Isn’t something as important as love worth the four key strokes it takes to spell it out?).

We almost never commit our most important thoughts and emotions to paper anymore.

As a result, spoken language dominates and even smart people are losing their ability to spell words that sound alike (e.g., “Your the girl for me.”), let alone master the fine points of punctuation and other elements of grammar. But this isn’t the worst of it.

When people lose their ability to write, they lose their ability to organize their thinking and—in the case of love letters—their ability to make commitments that will withstand the tests of time and changing circumstances.

I’m no social scientist, but I’m sure there’s a direct correlation between modern courting methods (including the passage of the love letter into historical obscurity) and today’s high marriage failure rates. Statistics show that 50% percent of first marriages, 67% of second, and 73% of third marriages end in divorce in the US.

If the right-wingers want to pass an act which will truly defend marriage, rather than establishing hateful gender-based restrictions about who can love and commit to one another, they should require lovers to produce a sheaf of love letters to prove they’ve thought things through and mean what they promise.


Groove of the Day 

Listen to Gerry Wiggins performing “P.S. I Love You”


2 Responses to “love songs 11”

  1. 1 andy rea
    August 24, 2012 at 12:55 pm

    I wrote Sandie a love letter recently, and would like to post it. I need to do some editing what do you think?

  2. August 27, 2012 at 3:41 pm

    I WILL VOTE FOR THAT! Marriage should require love letters be written… and that they be kept in an old box… tied with a bow… to be read when there are tough times… and to be found by their children… and grandchildren. There is nothing like a handwritten love letter… and I don’t know who benefits more, the recipient, or the sender… Instant messages just don’t cut it at ALL! My husband can’t write his own feelings very well, but when we were dating, he would find appropriate lyrics to a song, to go along with whatever was happening in our relationship at the time (good or bad), write them on a piece of notebook paper, and leave them on my windshield… to be discovered when I left for work in the morning. I TREASURE those handwritten lyric love letters… on plain notebook paper…

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